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 *my material wishlist*


1.laptop


2. digicam


3.Ipod




4.BB Pink


5.  red makeup cabinet


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=MY MAKEUP WISHLIST=
Mac Makeups

2. NARS MAKEUPS
3. CHANEL MAKEUPS
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=MY TRAVEL TRIPS WISHLIST=

1. Trip to Paris


2.TRIP TO GREECE
3. MILAN
4.VENICE
5.ROME
6.SWITZERLAND
7.GERMANY
8. PRAGUE

MY NEW YEARS WISHLIST
a baby girl  very soon:-)
good health for me and my family
more blessings for the whole year
more trip abroad
a happy and peaceful married life
a loving and patient husband
a super generous husband
free education for street children charity. 
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! I KNOW I HAVE TOO MUCH WISH HAHA!


Vitamins and Supplements 
Let me share you my vitamins/supplements that i am using.

vitamina-c 1000mg/ complejo vitamina b-50 vitaglow-grapeseed extract and KB-kyosoko Bihaku...





*A TRUE STORY *

Just wanna post this story.....it really made me cry.... I have  read  many times but I can't help myself to read this again & again hope u like it too smile smile smile




This is a true story, dictated by the person who
experienced all the pains and trials).


Cruel misunderstandings one after another disrupted
the blissful footsteps of our family. Our original
intend of having Mother enjoy some quiet and peaceful
moments in her remaining years with us went terribly
wrong as destiny's secret is finally revealed at a
price, every thing became too late.

Just two years after our marriage, hubby brought up
the idea of asking Mother to move from the rural
hometown and spend her remaining years with us.
Hubby's father passed away while he was still
very young.

Mother endured much hardship and struggled all on her
own to provide for him, see him through to a university
degree. You could say that she suffered a great deal
and did everything you could expect of a woman to bring
hubby to where he is today.

I immediately agreed and started packing the spare
room, which has a balcony facing the South to let
her enjoy the sunshine and plant some greenery.
Hubby stood in the bright room, and suddenly
just picked me up and started spinning round and
round. As I begged him to put me down, he said:
"Lets go fetch mother." Hubby is tall and big
sized and I love to test on his chest and enjoy
the feeling that he could pick me up at any moment
put the tiny me into his pockets.

Whenever we have an argument and both refuses to
back down, he would pick me up and spin me over his
head continuously until I surrender and beg for mercy.
I became addicted to this kind of panic-joy feeling.

Mother brought along her countryside habits and
lifestyle with her. For example; I am so used to
buying flowers to decorate the living room,
she could not stand it and would comment:
"I do not know how you young people spend your
money, why do you buy flowers for? You also
can't eat the flowers!" I smiled and said:
"Mum, with flowers in the house, our mood
will also become better." Mother continues
to grumble away, and hubby smiled:
"Mum, this is a city-people's habit; slowly
you will get use to it."

Mother stopped saying anything. But every time
thereafter, whenever I came home with flowers,
she would ask me how much it costs. I told her
and she would shake her head and express displeasure. Sometimes, when I
come home with lots of shopping
bags, she would ask each and every item how much
they cost, I would tell her honestly and she
would get even more upset about it.

Hubby playfully pinched my nose and said: "You little
fool, just don't tell her the full price of everything
would solve it."

There begins the friction to our otherwise happy lifestyle.

Mother hates it most when hubby wa kes up early to
prepare the breakfast.

In your view, how could the man of the house cook for
the wife? At the breakfast table, mother facial expression
is always like the dark clouds before a thunderstorm
and I would pretend not to notice. She would use
her chopsticks and make a lot of noise with it as her
silent protest. As I am a dance teacher in the
Children's Palace and is exhausted from a long day
of dancing around, I do not wish to give up the
luxury of that additional few minutes in the comfort
of my bed and hence I turned a deaf ear to all the
protest mother makes.

From time to time, mother would help out with some
housework, but soon her help created additional work
for me. For example: she would keep all kinds
of plastic bags accumulating them so that she sell
them later on, and that resulted in our house being
filled with all the trash bags; she would scrimp on
dish washing detergent when helping to wash the dishes
and so as not to hurt her feelings, I would quietly
wash them again. One day, late at night, mother saw
me quietly washing the dishes, and "Bam" she slams
her bedroom door and cried very loudly in her room.

Hubby was placed in a difficult position, and after
that, he did not speak to me for that entire night.
I pretended to be a spoilt child, tried acting
cute, but he totally ignored me. I got mad and
asked him: "What did I do wrong?" Hubby stared at
me and said: "Can't you just give in to her once? We
couldn't possibly die eating from a bowl however
unclean it is, right?"

After that incident, for a long period of time, mother
did not speak to me and you can feel that there is a
very awkward feeling hanging in the house.


During that period of cold war, hubby was caught in
dilemma as to who to please. In order to stop her son
from having to prepare breakfast, mother took on the
"all important" task of preparing breakfast without any prompting. At
the breakfast table, mother would look at hubby happily eating his
breakfast and cast that
reprimanding stare at me for having failed to perform
my duty as a wife. To avoid the embarrassing breakfast
situation, I resorted to buying my own breakfast on
my way to work.

That night, while in bed, hubby was a little upset and
asked me: "LD, is it because you think that mum's cooking
is not clean that's why you chose not to eat at home?"
He then turned his back on me and left me alone in
tears as feeling of unfairness overwhelmed me.
After some time, hubby sighed:"LD, just for me, can
you have breakfast at home?" I am left with no choice
but to return to the breakfast table.

The next morning, I was having porridge prepared by
mother and I felt a sudden churn in my stomach and
everything inside seem to be rushing up  my throat.
I tried to suppress the urge to throw up but I
couldn't threw down the bowl and rushed into the
washroom and vomited everything out.

Just as I was catching my breath, I saw mother crying
and grumbling very loudly in her dialect, hubby was
standing at the washroom doorway staring at me with
fire burning in his eyes. I opened my mouth but no
words came out of it, I really didn't mean it.

We had our very first big fight that day; mother took
a look at us, then stood up and slowly made her way
out of the house. Hubby gave me a final stare in the
eye and followed mother down the stairs.

For three days, hubby did not return home, not even a
phone call. I was so furious, since mother arrived;
I had been trying my best and putting up with her,
what else do you want me to do? for no reason, i keep
having having the feeling to throw up and I simply
have not appetite for food, coupled with all the
events happening at home, I was at the low point
in my life. Finally, a colleague said: "LD, you look
terrible, you should go and see a doctor." The doctor
confirmed that I am pregnant. Now it became clear
to me why I threw up that fateful morning, a sense
of sadness floated through that otherwise happy news.
Why didn't hubby, and mother who had been through this
before, thought of the possibility of this being the
reason that day?

At the hospital entrance, I saw my hubby standing
there. It had only been three days, but he looked
haggard. I had wanted to turn and leave, but one
look at him and my heart soften, I couldn't resist
and called out to him.

He followed my voice and finally found me but he
pretended that he doesn't know me; he has that
disgusted look in his eyes that cut right through
my heart.

I told myself not to look at him anymore, and hail a
cab. At that moment, I have such a strong urge inside
me to shout to my hubby: "Darling, I am having your baby!"
and have him lift me up and spin me round in circles
of joy. What I wanted didn't happen and as I sat in the
cab, my tears started rolling down. Why? Why our love
couldn't even withstand the test of one fight? Back home,
I lay on the bed thinking about my hubby, and the
disgusted look in his eyes. I cried and wet the corner
of the blanket.

That night, sound of the drawers opening woke me up.
I switched on the lights and I saw hubby with tears
rolling down his face. He was removing the money.
I stared at him in silence; he ignored me, took the
bank deposit book and some money and left the house.
Maybe he really intends to leave me for good. What a
rational man, so clear-cut in love and money matters.

I gave a few dried laugh and tears starting streaming
down again.

The next day, I did not go to work. I wanted to clear
this out and have a good talk with hubby. I reached his
office and his secretary gave me a weird look and said:
"Mr. Tan's mother had a traffic accident and is now in
the hospital." I stood there in shock. I rushed to the
hospital and by the time I found hubby, mother had
already passed away. Hubby did not look at me, his
face was expressionless.

I looked at mother's pale white and thin face and I
couldn't control the tears in my eyes. My god, how
could this happen?

Throughout the funeral, hubby did say a single word
to me, with only the occasional disgusted stare
at me. I only managed to find out brief facts about
the accident from other people. That day, after mother
left the house, she walked in dazed toward the bus stop, apparently
intending to go back to her old house back in
the countryside. As hubby ran after her, she tried to
walk faster and as she tried to cross the street,
a public bus came and hit her...

I finally understood how much hubby must hate me, if I
had not thrown up that morning, if we had not quarreled,
if...

In his heart, I am indirectly the killer of his
mother. Hubby moved into mother's room and came
home every night with a strong liquor smell on
him.

And me, I am buried under the guilt and self pity and
could hardly breathe.

I wanted to explain to him, tell him that we are going
to have our baby soon, but each time, I saw the dead
look in his eyes, all the words I have at the brink of
my mouth just fell back in. I had rather he hit me real
hard or give me a big and thorough scolding though
none of these events happening had been my fault at all.

Many days of suffocating silence went by and as the
days went by, hubby came home later and later. The
deadlock between us continues, we were living together
like strangers who don't know each other. I am like the
dead knot in his heart.

One day, I passed by a western restaurant, looking
into the glass window, I saw hubby and a girl sitting
facing each other and he very lightly brushed her
hair for her, I understood what it meant.

After recovering from that moment of shock, I entered
the restaurant, stood in front of my hubby and stared
hard at him, not a tear in my eyes. I have nothing to
say to him, and there is no need to say anything.

The girl looked at me, looks at hubby, stands up
and wanted to go, hubby stretched out his hand and
stopped her. He stared back at me, challenging me.
I can only hear my slow heart beat, beating, one
by one as if at the brink of death. I eventually
backed down, if I had stood that any longer, I will
collapse together with the baby inside me.

That night, he did not come home, he had chosen
to use that as a way to indicate to me: Following
mother's death so did our love for each other.

He did not come home anymore after that. Sometimes,
when I returned home from work, I can tell that the
cupboard had been touched - he had returned to take
some of his stuff.

I no longer wish to call him; the initial desire
to explain everything to him vanished.

I lived alone; I go for my medical checkups
alone, my heart breaks again and again every time
I see a guy carefully helping his wife through the
physical examination. My office colleagues hinted to
me to consider aborting the baby, I told them No, I
will not. I insisted on having to this baby, perhaps
it is my way of repaying mother for causing her death.

One day, I came home and I saw hubby sitting in the
living room. The whole house was filled with cigarette
smoke. On the coffee table, there was this piece of paper.
I know what it is all about without even looking at it.


In the two months plus of living alone, I have
gradually learned to find peace within myself.
I looked at him, removed my hat and said:
"You wait a while, I will sign." He looked at me,
mixed feelings in his eyes, just like mine.
As I hang up my coat, I keep repeating to myself
"You cannot cry, you cannot cry..." my eyes hurt
terribly, but I refused to let tears come out
from there.

After I hung up my coat, hubby's eyes stared
fixed at my bulging tummy.

I smiled, walked over to the coffee table and
pull the paper towards me.

Without even looking at what it says, I signed my
name on it and pushed the paper to him.

"LD, you are pregnant?"

Since mother's accident , this is the first time
he spoke to me. I could not control my tears
any further and they fell like raindrops. I
said: "Yes, but its ok, you can leave now." He
did not go, in the dark, we sat, facing each other.

Hubby slowly moved over me, his tears wet the
blanket. In my heart, everything seems so far
away, so far that even if I sprint, I could
never reach them. I cannot remember how many
times he repeated "sorry" to me, I had originally
thought that I would forgive him, but now I can't.

In the western restaurant, in front of that girl,
that cold look in his eyes, I will never forget,
ever. We have drawn such deep scares in each other's
heart. For me, its unintentional; for him, totally
intentional.

I had been waiting for this moment of reconciliation,
but I realized now, what had gone past is gone forever
and could not repeated.

Other than the thought of the baby inside me that
would bring some warmth to my heart, I am totally
cold towards him, I no longer eat anything he
buys for me, I don't take any presents from him
and I stopped talking to him.

From the moment I signed on that piece of paper,
marriage and love had vanished from my heart.

Sometimes, hubby will try to come into the
bedroom, but when he walks in, I will walk
out to the living room. He had no choice but to
sleep in mother's room. At night, from his room,
I can hear light sounds of groaning, I kept quiet.
This used to be his trick; last time, whenever
I ignore him, he would fake illness and I will
surrender and find out what is wrong with him,
he would then grab me and laugh. He has
forgotten that last time I cared for him and am
concerned because there is love, but now, what
is there between us?

Hubby's groaning came on and off continuing all
the way till baby was born. Almost everyday, he
would buy something for the baby, infant
products, children products and books that kids
like to read. Bags and bags of it stacked inside
his room till it is full. I know he is trying to
use this to reach out to me, but I am no longer
moved by his actions. He has no choice but to
lock himself in his room and I can hear his typing
away on his computer keyboard, maybe he is now
addicted to web surfing, but none of that matters
to me anymore.

It was sometime towards the end of spring in the
following year, one late night, I screamed because
of a sudden stomach pain, hubby came rushing into
the room, its like he did not change and sleep, and
had been waiting for this moment. He carried me and
ran down the stairs, stopped a car, holding my hand
very tightly and kept wiping the sweat off my brow,
throughout the journey to the hospital. Once we
reached the hospital, he carried me and hurried
into the delivery suite.

Lying on the back of his skinny but warmth body, a
thought crossed my mind: In my lifetime, who else
would love me as much as he did?

He held the delivery suite door opened and watch
me go in, his warm eyes c aused me to managed a
smile at him despite my contraction pain.


Coming out of the delivery room, hubby looked at
our son, and me, his eyes tear with joy and he
kept smiling. I reached out and touched his hand.

Hubby looked at me, smiling and then he slowly
collapsed onto the floor.

I cried out for him in pain... He smiled, but
without opening that tired eyes of his... I
had thought that I would never shed any tear
for him, but the truth is, I have never felt a
deeper pain cutting through my body at that moment.

Doctor said that by the time hubby discovered he
had liver cancer, it was already in terminal stage
and it was a miracle tha! t he managed to last this
long. I asked the doctor when did he first discover he
had cancer?

Doctor said about 5 months ago and consoled me
saying: "Prepare for his funeral."

I disregarded the nurse's objection and rushed
home, I went into his room and checked his computer,
and a suffocating pain hits me.

Hubby's cancer was discovered 5 months ago, his
groaning was real, and I had thought that... the
computer showed over 200 thousand words he
wrote for our son: "Son, just for you, I have
persisted, to be able to take a look at you before
I fall, is my biggest wish now... I know
that in your life, you will have many happiness
and maybe some setbacks, if only I can accompany
you throughout that journey, how nice would it be.
But daddy now no long has that chance. Daddy has
written inside here all the possible difficulties
and problems you may encounter during your
lifetime, when you meet with these problems, you
can refer to daddy's suggestion... Son, after writing
these 200 thousand words, I feel as if I have accompanied
you through your life journey.

To be honest, daddy is very happy. Do love your
mother, she has suffered, she is the one who loves
you most and also the one who loves me most..."

From play school to primary school, to secondary,
university, to work and even in dealing with
questions of love, everything big and small
was written there.

Hubby has also written a letter for me:

"My dear, to marry you is my biggest happiness,
forgive me for the pain I have caused you, forgive
me for not telling you my illness, because I want
to see you be in a joyful mood waiting for the
arrival of our baby... My dear, if you cried,
it means that you have forgiven me and I would smile,
thank you for loving me...

These presents, I'm afraid I cannot give them to
our son personally,could you help me to give some
of them to him every year, the dates on what to
give when are al! l written on the packaging..."

Going back to the hospital, hubby is still in
coma. I brought our son over and place him beside
him. I said: "Open your eyes and smile, I want our
son to remember being in the warmth of your arms..."

He struggled to open his eyes and managed a weak
smile. Our son still in his arms was happily waving
his tiny hands in the air. I press the button on the
camera and the sound of the shutter rang thought the
air as tears slowly rolled down my face...


I am totally speechless, this story brought tears to my eyes as I read
through each line . It truly showed the devastating power of grudges and anger! Simple humility and communication would have resolved most of the problems in that story, as well as patience.... .now i learn to accept things and lessen my pride. 


a big time lesson learn and became my motto: 

"IT'S BETTER TO LOSE YOUR PRIDE TO THE ONE YOU LOVE,
THAN TO LOSE THE ONE YOU LOVE BECAUSE OF PRIDE"



how about you?






Let me show you my Mini Haul for Today..





 (L-R) toenails slipper, lulur whitening body scrub, opal deep conditioning, mediherbs papaya soap, eskinol night and day cream sachet, scented minin candles in bamboo, close up white now, oral b toothpaste


 

 the most raves beauty rituals which i found in GT forum. and i can say that it is really true! huh! well i have only use this today and i can say that it works wonder but hey!! too early to say more so that's it for now. I will post more review about this in few weeks. for now i just love the scent and the smooth feeling on my skin.




 






and add to this i also bought Muscovado Sugar to add some sweet on this post lolz! you can try this it is good though..










                                                  
That's it for now. hope you enjoy!!! till then:-)


What's inside my bag today!

hmmmmm i have nothing to post, so  I decided to play around my stuff. I'm gonna show you what's on my bag for today  and the makeup and stuff  I bring when going out. note: im not pro to makeup, i only have some local brand of lippies and blush on.


(left to right) simply pretty oil blotting paper, elf correcting concealer palette, body shop lip and cheek tint, careline shimmering lip gloss, avon 24k lipstick, Ever Bilena off beat pink, Nichido mulltiple stick in south beach, Ever Bilena  blush in Baby Pink, Nars blush in Desire, and ever Bilena blushing pink face powder


Blushes for everyday use. love it they are all in pink blushes

LtR- Hygienix alcohol, ever bilena endless romance spray, ph wet tissue, vicks small med kit, D&G perfume, vaseline hand lotion, J&J baby oil

i also have my phone, wallet and keys not in the photo's 
That's it for now. I will post more of my other things inside my other bags soon!

Thanks for reading




50 Payo for Mag-Asawa at sa Mag Aasawa
 

1. LAGING TANDAAN NA KAYO AY REGALO NG DIOS PARA SA ISA’T ISA
Remembering that your spouse is a gift from God is a healthy thing to do. It will somehow help you avoid thinking that your spouse is just a chance; worst, a mistake. Totoo naman talaga na ang asawa ay regalo ng Dios. Ang asawa ay hindi lang napulot kung saan. Ang asawa ay hindi galing sa impakto. Lalong hindi siya hulog ng impiyerno. Ang asawa ay regalo ng Dios. Laging tandaan na ang mga regalo ng Dios ay mabuti. Ang asawa mo ay isa sa mga mabubuting regalo ng Dios sa iyo.

2. IPAKITA AT IPADAMA ANG PAG-IBIG SA PARAAN GUSTO NIYA.

May mga mag-asawang nagsabing:
“Hindi ko ,maramdamang mahal ako ng aking asawa.�
Ang dahilan- hindi siya minamahal sa paraang gusto niya. Baka naman kasi hindi sinasabi sa asawa kung paano niya gustong mahalin. Hindi masama at lalong hindi nakakahiya na sabihin sa iyong asawa kung paano mo ibig mahalin. Malaking tulong din kung tatanungin mo ang iyong asawa kung paano niya gustong mahalin. Lalo kang mamahalin ng asawa mo kung mamahalin mo siya sa paraang gusto niya.

3. SA ARI-ARIAN AT PERA HUWAG MAG KANYA-KANYA

Sa mag-asawa, ang ari-arian ng isa ay ari-arian ng dalawa. Walang “akin, akin.�  Walang “sa’yo, sa’yo� . Lahat “atin ito.�  Ang perang kinita ng isa ay pera ng mag-asawa.
If in marriage the man and the woman were one flesh, then what is owned by one is owned by the other.
Kaya huwag nang magtaguan pa. Ilabas na ang perang pinaakaka-ipit- ipit sa pitaka.

4. SHOWER EACH OTHER WITH LOVE.
Diligin ninyo ng pag-ibig ang isa’t-isa para sumagana ang pagsasama. Ang maayos at matatag na pagsasama ng mag-asawa ay hindi nagaganap nang basta basta ito ay parang halaman na inaalagaan at dindiligan. Pag-ibig ang ipandilig, hindi masamang hinala, paninira, o pangungutya.

5. MAGING CREATIVE SA PAGPAPAKITA AT PAGPAPADAMA NG PAG-IBIG
Ang pagiging creative sa pagpapadama ng pag-ibig ay napakalaking tulong sa pagpapanatili ng init ng pagsasama ng mag-asawa. Kung nag-iisip para maging creative, may thrill, may excitement! Therefore hindi boring. Nakasasawa kung paulit-ulit lang. paminsan-minsan dapat mayrong konting pagbabago sa pagpapahayag at pagpappadam ng pag-ibig.
Halimbawa:
Kung lagi mo lang sinasabi sa asawa mo “ I love you, “ ngayon isulat mo sa magandang papel at ilagay mo sa magandang frame. O di ba creative?Kung laging papel at ballpen ang ginagamit mo to say “ I love you�  to your spouse, ngayon kung kaya mong magrent ng jet plane ipasulat mo sa ulap sa pamamagitan ng usok ang “ Ilove you�  addressed to your spouse.
From paper and pen. To sky and usok. Wow! Di ba creative? Maging creative, OK!

6. SHOW CONCERN ON THE INTERESTS OF YOUR SPOUSE.

Huwag lang himukin ang asawa na magpakita ng concern sa kung anung interests mayroon ka. Magkusa ka rin naman magpakita ng concern sa interests ng iyong asawa. Suportahan mo siya. Alamin ang paboritong sports ng iyong asawa at makipaglaro kung kaya mo rin lang. Makipag-usap sa asawa tungkol sa mga paksang gusto niya. Samahan ang asawa kung gusto niyang isama sa panood ng mga pelikulang gusto niya. Malaking tulong sa masayang pagsasama ang maging concern sa interests ng isat-isa

7. SATISFY THE SEXUAL NEED OF YOUR SPOUSE
Attend not only to your personal sexual satisfaction but also to the satisfaction of your spouse. Pag hindi mo sinikap na i-satisfy ang iyong asawa baka humanap siya ng ibang mag-sasatisfy sa kanya.

8. AVOID RETIRING TO BED WITH UNSETTLED ILL FEELING

Ang paminsan-minsang ma-offend ng asawa o maka-offend ng asawa ay bahagi na ng buhay mag-asawa. Kung sakaling ma-offend ka muli ng iyong asawa, huwag mong hayaang makatulog ka ng may sama ng loob sa kanya. Huwag hayaang makatulugan ang galit sa asawa, baka kasi pag pagising mo patay ka na. Pangit mamatay na may kimkim na sama ng loob sa asawa. Kung balak mong bukas ay alisin saiyong dibdib ang samang dulot ng iyong asawa, gawin mo na ngayon baka bukas ay huli na.

9. BE GENTLE AND TACTFUL IN CORRECTING AN ERROR COMMITTED BY YOUR SPOUSE

Walang asawang perfect. Lahat nagkakamali.
If you need to correct an error committed by your spouse, be specific. Attack an error committed by your spouse not his “being� . Approach your spouse gently and tactfully. Kung hindi ka magiging maingat at matalino sa pagtutuwid sa pagkakamali ng iyong asawa, ang pagtutuwid mo ay magiging sanhi pa ng lalong ikagugulo ng inyong pagsasama. Dapat lang na ituwid ang pag kakamali o kasalanan ng asawa. But make sure to do it intelligently, tactfully, and cautiously.
Remember: In making corrections, don’t forget to offer solutions.

10. MANALANGING MAGKASAMA

Sikaping huwag lumipas ang isang araw na hindi kayo nakapanalanging mag-asawa. Manalangin pakagising sa umaga at bago matulog sa gabi. Ang magkasamang pananalangin ay napakalaking tulong hindi lang sa “bonding�  ng mag-asawa kundi maging sa pagharap rin nila sa problema. May mga problemang ang hirap lutasin ng “patayo� . Subalit walang problema na hindi malulutas kung ang mag-asawa ay “paluhod�  na mananalanging magkasama.

Tandaan:
Ang isang buong araw ng mag-asawa ay maaapektuhan ng ilang minutong magkasamang panalangin nila.

11. RESPECT YOUR SPOUSE’S NEED FOR PRIVACY.

Natural sa tao na minsan ay gustong mag-isa. Totoo ito maging sa mag-asawa. Recognize your spouse’s need for privacy and honor it. Dapat ring tanggapin ang katotohanang may mga bagay na para lang sa asawa at hindi dapat pakialaman ng kahit sino pa. At mayron din naming mga pagkakataon na may gagawin ang asawa na hindi dapat pakialaman o panghimasukan dahil insulto sa kakayahan pag siya ay pinakialaman. Kahit pa ng asawa niya.

12. TUMUPAD SA PANGAKO

Ang pangko galing sa asawa ay nagdudulot ng saya. Pero higit na ligaya ang madarama kung ang asawa ay tumutupad sa pangako niya. Huwag lang puro pangako. Tumupad ka! Liligaya ang iyong asawa, titibay ang pasasama, kung sa pangako tumutupad ka! POGI points at BEAUTY points ang pagtupad sa pangako sa asawa.

13. PAG NAGALIT, SIKAPING TUMAHIMIK MUNA.
Matalinong pagpapasya ang tumatahimik muna pag nagalit sa asawa. Ang tao pag galit ay may tendensya na makapanakit. Sino mang nasaktan ay may tendensyang manlaban at manakit din naman. Makatutulong na maiwasan ang away at pananakit, kung sa panahong ikaw ay galit, manahimik muna, MANALANGIN at mag-isip-isip.

14. IWASAN ANG PAGSIGAW SA ASAWA LALO SA HARAP NG IBA.

Ang pagsisigaw sa asawa lalo na harap ng iba ay isang tanda ng kakulangan o kawalan ng paggalang sa asawa. Pwera na lang kung bingi ang asawa, hindi tamang sinisigawan siya. Nababastos at namumukhang tanga ang iyong asawa kung sisigawan mo siya lalo sa harap ng iba. Siguro naman ayaw mong nababastos at nagmumukhang tanga ang iyong asawa. Kaya huwag mong sisigawan ang iyong asawa.

15. BE APPRECIATIVE OF YOUR SPOUSE’S TALENTS ANG ABILITIES.

Congratulations sa mga gumagawa nito. At ‘yong hindi gumagawa nito, magbago na kayo! Make your respective spouses happy and be an encouragement to them, help develop your spouse’s talents and abilities. Malaking kagalakan at encouragement sa iyong asawa kung isa ka sa mga taong nag-a-appreciate sa kanya. Marami ang nagtatampo o nagagalit sa asawa dahil hindi ina-appreciate ang kanilang talento at abilidad ng kani-kanilang asawa.
Appreciate the talents and abilities of your spouse. But more importantly, appreciate your spouse. DO IT NOW.

16. IWASANG PINTASAN ANG ASAWA.
Hindi madaling tanggapin ang pintas galing sa ibang tao. Lalong mahirap tanggapin kung ang pintas ay galing aasawa mo. Napakasakit nito lalo pa kung naririnig ng ibang tao. Imbis na pintasan ang asawa mo tulungan na lang siyang magbago. At kung may sasabihin ka sa ibang tao tungkol sa asawa, magagandang bagay na lang ang ikuwento, huwag ang kapintasan niya.

17. TULUNGAN SIYANG HUWAG MAGKASALA.

Mas madaling makaiiwas sa pagkakasala ang iyong asawa kung tutulungan mo siya. Sa paglaban sa tukso suportahan ang asawa. Laging alalahanin na ang pagbagsak ng asawa ay pagbagsak ng pamilya. Alamin kung ano ang laban ng iyong asawa. Laban mo rin ang laban ng iyong asawa kaya lubos na tulungan siya.
Hindi-“BAHALAKA.�  Ang kailangan –“SUPORTAHAN TA KA.�

18. ANG GALIT SA IBA AY HUWAG IBALING SA ASAWA.

Kung sakaling nagalit ka sa ibang tao, halimbawa sa presidente ng kompanyang pinagtatrabahuhan mo, sa boss mo, o sa kanino mang tao na tinitingala mo na hindi mo kayang ipakita ang galit mo, huwag mong ibaling sa iyong asawa ang galit mo. Maging aware ka dito dahil pwedeng mangyari ito nang hindi mo namamalayan. Unconsciously you might transfer your anger with someone else to your spouse.
It happens to some.I pray it won’t happen to you.

19. WHEN YOU HAVE OFFENDED YOUR SPOUSE, LEARN TO SHOW YOU’RE SORRY.

Pag na-offend mo ang iyong asawa, kung talagang sorry ka, ipakita mo na totoong sorry ka. When you realized that you have wronged your spouse, don’t just say “I’m sorry.�  Show that you are really are sorry. Show it with your face and show it with your action. May mga nagsosorry sa asawa na habang sinasabi ang “I’m sorry�  ay nakangisi. Lalo tuloy nabubuwisit ang asawa niya sa kanya. May mga nagsasabing “I’m sorry�  sa asawa na wala namang pagbabagong makita sa pakikitungo sa asawa.
When you say you’re sorry, mean it. And show that you really are sorry.

20. FORGIVE.
Patawarin mo ang iyong asawa. Kailan? Pagnagkasala! Kahit pa gaano katindi ang kasalanang nagawa sa iyo ng asawa mo, patawarin mo siya para wala kang bigat na dinadala. Ang di-pagpapatawad ay nakasasakit ng ulo. Nakakapangit pa ito! Talo ang di nagpapatawad. Panalo ka kung magpapatawad ka. Ang pagpapanatili ng galit ay nagdudulot ng hinagpis at karaniwang humahantong sa pananakit. May galit ka pa ba sa asawa mo? Patawarin mo na siya.
The earlier you forgive when you get offended by your spouse, is better than best.
Tandaan:
Hindi optional ang magpatawad. Ang magpatawad ay utos ng Dios.

21.. AVOID NAGGING

Nakakainis ang asawang nagger. Ayon sa ilang asawa ng nakausap ko:
“Lalo akong nagtatampo pag nina-nag ako ng asawa ko.�
“Gusto kong sungangain ang bibig ng asawa ko
“Nanliliit ako and I feel stupid pag nina-nag ako sa asawa ko.�
Ikaw, ano ang pakiramdam mo pag nina-nag ka ng asawa mo?
Kung may nagawang pagkakamali ang iyong asawa at gusto mong sabihin sa kanya, minsan lang itong sabihin sa kanya. At huwag idagdag pa dito ang mga dati pang mali na nagawa niya. Sa pagsasalita sikaping maging mahinahon, huwag pagalit, hindi nang-iinis o nanlalait.

22. HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.
Nakakapangit ang laging nakakunot ang noo. Sa mag-asawa kailangan ang ngiti at tawa. Can you imagine a couple without a sense of humor? Boring di ba? Ang lungkot ng buhay ng mag-asawa pag walang sense of humor. Parang laging may patay. It’s nice to make people happy especially your spouse. Have a sense of humor. Patawanin mo ang iyong asawa. Learn to crack good funny jokes. Dagdag ligaya kung ang asawa ay marunong magpatawa.

23. MANGARAP! MAGTIYAGA! MATALINONG GUMAWA.

Libreng mangarap. Mangarap kayong mag-asawa at magkasamang magplano tungo sa katuparan ng inyong pangarap. Walang challenge ang buhay kung walang pangarap sa buhay ang mag-asawa. Magkaroon kayo ng kaisahan sa inyong pangarap. Mahirap para sa mag-asawa ang walang isang pangarap. Walang tagumpay kung walang pangarap. Pero huwag lang puro pangarap. Baka bangungutin kayo kung puro pangarap lang. Maging masipag, at matiyaga. Magtrabaho nang husto, gumawa, at maging matalino sa paggawa.

24. MORE THAN WINNING THE ARGUMENT, AIM TO WIN YOUR SPOUSE.
Natural sa mag-asawa ang paminsan-minsan ay magkaroon ng argumento. Kung sakaling manyari ito sa inyo, aim on winning your spouse, more than winning the argument against your spouse. Aanhin mo ang manalo sa argumento kung mawawala naman sa’yo ang asawa mo. Sige, isipin mo.

25. MAGING AT TRA CTIVE SA IYONG ASAWA.

Maraming asawa ang nahulog sa kandugan ng iba kasi hindi na attractive para sa kanya ang kanyang asawa. Huwag kayong magpabaya sa inyong itsura. Mag-exercise at iwasana ang walang pakundangang pagkain nang sobra para di masira ang inyong pigura. At sikapin na rin na maging mabango para sa asawa. Tanungin din ang asawa kung anong amoy at itsura ang gusto niya. Sundin ang gusto ng asawa para maging attractive sa kanya. I-attract mo ang iyong asawa baka kasi iba pa ang umattract sa kanya. Sige ikaw rin. Baka magsisi ka.

26. MAGING KONTENTO KAYO.

Delikado ang maaaring kahinatnan ng mag-asawang walang kakuntentuhan sa kung ano’ng mayron sila. Gulo ang kasasadlakan. Ano ba ang kailangan para maging kontento ang tao? Ang kasapatan ba ng lahat ng pangangailangan? Kung dito nakabase ang kakuntentuhan walang mag-asawang mauubusan ng pangangailan. Therefore, walang mag-asawang makukuntento. Hindi masama ang maghangad ng karagdagan para sa kinabukasan. Pero maging kuntento muna at magpakaligaya sa kung ano ang mayron kayo ngayon. Baka kasi hindi dumating ang bukas. Pag dumating ang “bukas,�  ang “bukas�  ay naging “ngaun.�  Kaya kung ano mayron kayo, magpakaligaya at maging kuntento.. Kung kuntento ka sakaling mamatay ka ngayon, maluwag ang iyong dibdib na ikaw ay papanaw at marahil nakangiti ka pa hanggang kabaong.

27. UMIWAS SA MGA SITWASYON NA MAARING MAGBUNGA NG MASASAMANG HINALA

Para hindi ka mapagbintangan na may ginagawang masama,iwasan ang mga sitwasyong kanina-hinala. Huwag kang magasasama o sasama sa hindi mo asawa sa isang lugar na makukwestiyon ang iyong pagsasama.
Halimbawa:
Sa loob ng pribadong sasakyan (dalawa lang kayo sa loob ng kotse);
Sa park ng pang magnobyo o pang mag-asawa; Sa loob ng hotel.
Mahirap paniwalan na ang isang lalake at isang babaeng galing sa loob ng hotel ay nagprayer meeting, nagkwentuhan, nagjack en poy lang. Mag-ingat! Umiwas!

28. BE GENTLE.
Gentleness to your spouse can be best exemplified by being considerate of your spouse’s feeling and thoughts. Bago mo gawin ang isang bagay o bago mo sabihin ang gusto mong sabihin isipin mo muna kung ano ang maaring bunga nito sa isip at damdamin ng iyong asawa. Hindi komo’t gusto mo ay gagawin mo na lang basta-basta. I-kunsidera mo naman ang isip at damdamin ng iyong asawa. Sa pagsasalita, sa gawa, maging sa paghipo at paghawak, maging gentle sa asawa.

29. BE PROUD OF YOUR SPOUSE
Ipinagmamalaki mo ba ang iyong asawa? Dapat lang! Proud ka bang nakikita ang itsura ng asawa mo o gusto mong takpan siya ng dyaryo habang ipinakikilala mo siya sa ibang tao? Huwag mong ikahiya ang iyong asawa. Be proud of your spouse. Huwag mong ikahiya nag iyong asawa.

30. IGALANG ANG OPINION NG ASAWA
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Ang lahat ay may karapatang magpahayg ng kanyang sariling opinion. Ito man ay mali o tama. Igalang ang opinion ng asawa. Kahit di ka sumang-ayon sa opinion ng iyong asawa ipakita mong iginagalang mo ito. Ang hindi pagkakapareho ng opinion ng iyong asawa sa iyo ay hindi nangangahuluganng mali siya. Hindi lahat ng naiiba ay mali . Pero kahit pa hindi ka sang-ayon sa opinion ng asawa, dapat pa rin na igalang ang opinion niya. Ang hindi pagsangayon ay hindi nangagngahulugan ng kawalan ng paggalang. Ang mahalaga, igalang ang opinion ng asawa. Tanda kasi ito ng paggalang sa kanya. Igalang ang asawa.

31. HUWAG MAGING “BOSSY� .
Sa mag-asawa walang “amo.�  Walang boss. Dapat parehong naglilingkod sa isa’t-isa. The husband being appointed by God as head of the wife is not taken as “Lord over the wife.�  Hindi rin naman tama na ang wife ay hindi nagpapasakop sa husband. Huwag mong tratuhing alila ang iyong asawa. Pumarehas ka kahit pa mas malaki ang kinikita mo kumpara sa kanya. Kung uutusan ang asawa don’t forget the magic word-“PLEASE.�  At kung wala kang ginagawa at may ginagawa ang iyong asawa, huwag mo na siyang abalahin pa. kung kaya mo rin lang ang gagawin, huwag mo nang iasa pa sa asawa.

32. MAGING MAUNAWAIN.

Kung gusto mong lalo kang mahalin ng iyong asawa ipakita mong inuunawa mo siya. Totoong kailangan mo ang pang-unawa. Pero higit sa hanapin mo sa asawa ang unawain ka, mas unahin mo ang unawain siya. Sa bandang huli ang hinahanap mong pang-unawa galing sa iyong asawa ay ibibigay din niya. Ang pagpapkita ng pang-unawa ay malinaw na ebidensya ng pagmamahal sa asawa.

33. KEEP COMMUNICATION LINES OPEN.

Dapat lang sa mag-asawa na alamin at ipaalam ang kalagayan ng isa’t-isa. This will not happen if the couple will not keep their communication open. Basic indicators of good communication between a husband and wife:
Clear transmission of message- be it thoughts or feelings.
Listening- Don’t just butt in.
Understanding- seeing from the perspective of the one who speaks.
Empathy-feeling with.
Maraming problema ang maiiwasan ng mag-asawa kung laging bukas ang komunikasyon nila para sa isa’t-isa.

34. MAGING MAHINAHON SA PAG-UUSAP PAG MAY PROBLEMANG NILUULUTAS.
Walang problemang di malulutas sa mahinahong pag-uusap. Sa totoo lang, maraming problema ang hindi na sana lumala pa kung sa pag-uusap ay naging mahinahon ang mag-asawa. Hindi makakatulong sa paglutas ng problema kung nagsisisihan ang mag-asawa. Magpokus sa solusyon huwag sa pagkakamali o sa problema ng isa’t-isa. Iwasan din ang pangungutya at magtaas na tono pag nagsasalita. Bahagi rin ng pagiging mahinahon ang paggamit ng mga tamang salita.

35. LET YOUR SPOUSE KNOW YOUR FEELINGS AND THE PREDICAMENT YOU ARE IN.
Tell your spouse not only your thoughts but also your feelings. Letting your spouse know your feelings and the predicament you are in will somehow help your spouse act accordingly. Ewan ko lang kung nakakabasa ng isip ang asawa mo, hindi naman manghuhula ang asawa mo para malaman niya ang iniisip at nararamdaman mo. Sa panahong nanghihina o nagdaramdam ka, magandang sabihin ito sa asawa. Huwag sarilinin ang pagdurusa. Dahil ang mag-asawa dapat magkasama sa hirap at ginhawa. Walang silbi ang asawa kung sa panahon ng pagdurusa ay hindi nakikiisa. Pero mahirap malaman ng iyong asawa ang lagay mo kung hindi mo ito sasabihin sa kanya.
Huwag mahiya.
Huwag mag-alala.
Magsabi ka sa asawa.

36. IWASANG ISUMBAT ANG MGA NAKALIPAS NA PAGKAKAMALING NAGAWA NIYA.

May mga taong pag nagalit sa asawa ay binabalik-balikan ang matagal ng pagkakamaling nagawa ng asawa. At pauli-ulit na isinusumbat ito sa kanya. Pag ganito ng ganito, sisikip ang mundo ng iyong asawa at baka marapatin pang iwan ka niya. Ang kasalanang pinagsisisihan na ay hindi na dapat isumbat pa. pag may bagong nagawang pagkakamali ang iyong asawa, huwag mong isama iyong mga luma na. walang kahihinatnang maganda ang isumbat sa asawa ang pagkakamaling lipas na.

37. IWASANG GAWIN ANG ANO MANG BAGAY NA ALAM MONG IGAGALIT NIYA.
May mga asawa na talagang nananadya. Tahasang ginagawa ang mga bagay na alam na ikagagalit ng kanyang asawa. HUWAG GUMAYA SA KANILA. Yon naman eh… kung ayaw mong masira ang pamilya. Hindi lang asawa ang masamang epekto pagtahasang ginagawa mo ang alam mong nakasasakit sa iyong asawa. Maaaring gantihan ka ng iyong asawa at pati ang anak mo, maaaring gayahin ka at tahasan ring saktan ka. Huwag gawin sa asawa ang mga bagay na ayaw mong sa iyo ay gawin niya.

38. SA PANAHONG NANGHIHINA ANG LOOB NG ASAWA, MAGING SOURCE OF ENCOURAGEMENT PARA SA KANYA..
May mga panahon maaaring manghina ang iyong asawa gawa ng kinakaharap na problema. Maging katuwang ka sa pagresolba ng problema at huwag na maging pabigat pa. Kung kailangang magsakripisyo para makatulong-magsakri pisyo! Kung kailangang tumahimik para makatulong- manahimik! Gawin mo ang magagawa mo para matulungang malutas ang problema ng asawa. Be a source of encouragement .

39. IWASAN ANG PAKIKIALAM SA MGA BAGAY NA INAARING PERSONAL NG IYONG ASAWA.
Personal letters, text messages, bag at pitaka, at iba pang mga bagay na inaaring personal ng iyong asawa, huwag mong basta-basta babasahin, kakalkalin, at pakikialaman.

40. MAGTIWALA

Ang pagpapakita ng pagtitiwala sa asawa ay malaking tulong tungo sa magandang pagsasama. Kung noon ay niloloko ka ng iyong asawa ang magtiwala sa kanya ay maaring maging tulong tungo sa pagbabago niya. Para sa isang naglolokong asawa hindi madaling gawin ang magbago lalo kung walang tulong na manggagaling sa kanyang asawa. Kung sakaling sa kabila ng ipinakita mong pagtitiwala sa iyong asawa ay niloko ka pa rin niya, alalahanin mong sa iyo ay walang nawala. Sa iyong asawa ay marami ang nawala. Sa pagtitiwala, walang nawawala. Sa manloloko, marami ang nawawala.

41. MAGING BEST FRIEND KA NG ASAWA MO.
“Ako ng asawa mo.�  Yes!�  tinuturing ka bang kaibigan ng iyong asawa?
Sagot pls.________ _________ ______
Sa hanay ng mga kaibigan ng iyong asawa, “Ikaw ba ay kinikilala ng iyong asawa ng kanyang matalik na kaibigan?�
Sagot pls.________ _________ _________
“Asawa mo, best friend ka ba?�
sagot pls.________ _________ _________ _
Dapat matalik na kaibigan ka ng iyong asawa.
Mas dapat…PINAKAMATALIK.

42. HUWAG GAWING KATATAWANAN ANG KAMALIAN, KAKULANGAN, AT KAIBAHAN NG IYONG ASAWA.

Lahat ay nakakamali, lahat ay nagkukulang. Lahat ay may kaibahan. Walang taong matutuwa pag pinagtatawanan ang kanyang kakulangan, kamalian, o kaibahan. Tahasang pangungutya sa asawa ang pagtawanan ang kaibahan o pagkakamali niya. Hindi tama na ginagawang biro ang pagkukulang, o mga bagay na hindi pangkaraniwan sa asawa.
Gaya ng:
Kuntil sa tenga,
Putol na daliri o sobra sa sampu ang daliri,
Ilong na parang tapon,
Kulay ng balat,
Butas ng ilong na mukhang garapon,
At iba pa.
Huwag pagtawanan ang kamalian, kaibahan at kahinaan ng asawa. Iwasang pagtawanan ang asawa. Baka gulpihin ka o kaya baka mawalan ka ng asawa.

43. MAGING MAKA-DIOS.

Sa pagsasama ng mag-asawa ang pagiging maka-Dios ang pinakamahalaga. Ang pagiging maka-Dios ang siyang magdadala sa mag-asawa sa isang matibay na pagsasama at totoong pagkakaisa. Natural sa mag-asawa ang datnan ng iba’t-ibang problema. Pagka maka-Dios ang mag-asawa mananatiling matatag ang kanilang pagsasama kahit gaano katindi ang problemang kinakaharap nila. Ang ikinatatag ng ugnayan ng mag-asawa ay hindi nakadepende sa dami ng pera o sariling kakayahan ng mag-asawa. Ang ikinatatatag ng relasyon ng mag-asawa ay nakadepende sa Dios na siyang pundasyon ng pagsasama. Sa panahong tahimik o may kaguluhan, panahong tag-init o tag-ulan, maging maka-Dios ka at ang iyong asawa.

44. BE ATTENTIVE PAG MAY SINASABI SIYA SA IYO.
Di ba pag kinakausap mo ang iyong asawa gusto mo nakikinig siya? Gusto rin ng asawa mo na pakinggan mo siya pag kinakausap ka niya. Di ba ayaw mo na may ginagawang kung anu-ano ang iyong asawa pag kinakausap mo siya? O di ganon din ang gawin mo. Huwag kang gumagawa ng kung anu-ano pag kinausap ka ng asawa mo. May mag-asawang mukhang magkausap silang dalawa. Mukha lang pala. Dahil ang kausap nila ay sari-sarili pala at hindi ang isa’t-isa. Nakakabanas! Di ba?
Babala: Huwag silang tularan.

45. IPAKITA AT IPADAMA NA MAHALAGA ANG IYONG ASAWA.
Sarap ng pakiramdam kung feeling important ka di ba? Ang asawang nakadama na siya ay di mahalaga sa kanyang asawa ay nag-mumukhang aba, nahahabag sa sarili, at nagiging madrama. Ipakita at ipadama na mahalaga sa iyo ang iyong asawa. Masarap kasama ang taong sa iyo ay nagpapahalaga. marami ng mag-asawa ang naghiwalay dahil sa kawalan ng pagpapahalaga sa isa’t-isa. Ipakita at ipadama na mahalaga sa iyo ang iyong asawa.

46. IIWAS SA SELOS ANG ASAWA.

Maraming mag-asawa ang nag-away at nasira ang buhay dahil sa selos. Marami ang nasiraan ng bait, pumatay at napatay dala ng matinding pagseselos. Natural na magselos kung kaselos-selos. magtaka ka kung may dapat pagselosan sa’yo ang iyong asawa tapos hindi siya nagseselos. Ang pinakamaganda, iiwas sa selos ng asawa. Kung sakaling hindi sinasadya may nagawa ka o kaya may nagawa ang iba na napansin mong ipinagseselos sa iyo ng iyong asawa, ayusin agad. Huwag patagalin pa. linawin ito at sikaping huwag maulit pa.
Tandaan: Ang selos ay parang lason. Naninira, nakamamatay.

47. HUWAG SABAT NANG SABAT KUNG ASAWA MO ANG KAUSAP NG IBA.
May mga asawang sabat ng sabat kahit hindi siya ang kinakausap.Turn off ka ba sa asawang sabat ng sabat? Correct ka diyan! Nakakaturn-off talaga ang asawang sabat nang sabat kahit hindi kinakausap. Kaya ikaw, iwasan ang pagsasabat-sabat kung asawa mo ang kausap. Kahanga-hanga ang asawang di palasabat.

48. MAGSAMA AT MAGKAISA SA PAGGAWA NG DESISYON.
Sa paggawa ng desisyon dapat lang na magkasama at nakakaisa ang mag-asawa. Sa mag-asawa, hindi tamang isa lang ang gagawa ng desisyon lalo pa kung maselan o major decision ang gagawin. Kagaya ng:
Paglipat ng bahay,
Pagbili at pagbebenta ng ari-arian,
Pagdisiplina sa mga anak,
At iba pa.
Bago gumawa ng desisyon dapat lang na ang mag-asawa ay nag-uusap muna at nananalanging magkasama. Daan ito tungo sa pagkakaisa.

49. HUWAG KALIMUTAN ANG MGA ARAW NA PINAHAHALAGAHAN NG IYONG ASAWA.

Hindi dapat makalimutan ang mga araw na pinahahalagahan ng iyong asawa lalo na ang birthday at wedding anniversary. Give your spouse a special greetings on special occasions. Better still, give your spouse a treat on special occasions. Gawin mo ito sa asawa mo. Sigurado ako, LOVE points ang bunga nito.
Remember: Don’t forget!

50.. BE RESOLVED TO LIVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE ALL YOUR LIFE.
Ang relasyon ng mag-asawa ay panghabambuhay. May kasabihan: “Ang pag-aasawa ay hindi parang kaning isusubo at iluluwa pag napaso.�  In solving marital problems, lot of solutions can be considered as the options. God hates divorce. God intends marriage to be for life. Maraming mag-asawa ang naghiwalay na. Marami na sila. Hindi na kayo dapat dumagdag pa. Magsama kayong mag-asawa sa lungkot at ligaya, sa hirap o ginhawa, meron o walang pera, hanggang may hininga.

Remember:
What God has joined together, Let no man separate.

- author unknown



Tomato - Very Useful For Skin Care

It is an important vegetable which has many health benefits due to the presence of anti-oxidants. These anti-oxidants give tomato the radiant red color. The calorie content in tomato is very less making it a favorite among many people. It also contains fiber, vitamin C, E, K, B1, B6, B3, B2, iron, manganese, potassium as well as carotenes and many more to help you in every manner.

Tomato Skin Care Recipes

Tomatoes are of great help for your skin. If you happen to go in the sun and in that span of time you get tanned, there is an easy solution. Prepare cucumber and tomato juice mixture to be applied on the affected areas of your skin. Keep it for 10 minutes; later wash it off with clean water. You will notice the difference.

Anyone can have skin rashes and the main reason for these rashes is silicon deficiency. This problem is overcome by having good amounts of sprouts, tomatoes and other vegetables and fruits.

Make a mixture of honey and tomato juice to be applied on your face and neck. Wash it off after 15 minutes and within minutes you would see a glowing face in front of the mirror.

Another recipe for glowing skin is the mixture of 2 tsp tomato juice and 4 tsp curd. Apply it well on your skin and wash it in 15 minutes to see the difference.

This recipe is for all those people who have oily skins, open pores and blackheads. Tomato has a acidic trait which also contains potassium and vitamin C which helps in cleansing the face. Rub a sliced piece of tomato on your skin and leave it for fifteen minutes. This would help the pores. Later wash it off with water.


For a good complexion spread the pulp of tomato on your face daily. Keep it for 1 hour and then wash it off with warm water. If done regularly the results will be seen.

The tomato lotion helps in shrinking the enlarged pores and this can be made by using tomato juice mixed with 2 or 3 drops of lime juice. Apply this solution on your face and then wash it off for 15 minutes.

A great recipe to remove sunburn can be made by adding 2 tsp tomato juice in 4 tbsp of buttermilk. Apply it all over your skin. Wash it off after keeping it for 1/2 hour.

You can easily make a homemade cleanser by using tomato and milk. Use tomato juice by straining the pulp and mix it with equal parts of milk. Store this in a bottle which can be refrigerated to be used everyday. Apply this on your face and neck by using your fingertips. Keep it for 10 minutes and later wash it with cold water.

Hope it helps. Thanks for reading!





 My favorite tee's from F21

Forever 21 known to have cutest and stylish stuff and affordable accessories as well, I'm a forever 21 lover and here are some tee's that i must say my "favorites" I would love to share that i have them years ago except for 3 items that was bought recently and i can say that it's not that totally cheap, why the brand name is not yet torn or damage at all, since they are all machine wash but unbelievably still in very good condition. 




I'm happy that F21 is now open here in Philippines, I don't need to shop abroad or order online, I can shop at my convenience and their prices are affordable pocket friendly for all the shopaholic like me. Ehem.. but I've change a lot. that's why im always on the lookout of  cheap but stylish stuff.
How about you? do you have any favorites? 



Sometimes, the daily grind of work and problems can really get on your nerves and disrupt your sleep schedule. Suddenly, you start to notice that you get more cranky at the littlest things (like that misplaced mug, for example), you binge more than ever (gasp!), and your eyebags are getting more prominent. if you are in  trouble sleeping,  this tips  will help you to  get that much-needed snooze time.

1)Don’t take your problems to bed.

Stress in the bedroom is a no-no! Give your brain a rest from all the deadlines, paperwork, and bills that you’ve been mulling over all day. Stress and anxiety might prevent you from sleeping well, as worrying puts your brain on hyperactive mode. This just encourages your body to stay awake, so make it a habit to relax yourself before bedtime.


2.)De-stress before you go to sleep

As mentioned above, it is necessary that you wind down before bedtime. But just how are you going to do that? Experiment and see what works for you. Try simple breathing exercises to calm your nerves. Others watch TV to relax (although for some, watching TV can be addicting, so this might not work for everybody), while some go for a warm, relaxing bath before bedtime. You may also want to try reading a boring book to help you sleep. Just keep in mind that the key here is maintaining a pre-bedtime routine to signal your body that it’s time to sleep.


3) Prep a “sleep-friendly” room
Your bedroom should be conducive for sleeping—after all, that’s what it’s for! Make it more sleep-friendly by stashing away work-related materials (which might only get you stressed), making sure that outside noise is barred (by shutting the windows or by tuning it out with a fan or AC), and turning off the lights (and keeping them off) during sleep hours. Also, it’s not a good idea to work in bed, so make sure that the laptop stays outside your bedroom; otherwise, your brain might associate bed with work rather than sleep.


4) Maintain regular sleep hours

Adults should still get six to eight hours of sleep per night, and one way to attain that is by sticking to a regular sleep schedule. It will be easier to fall asleep if you habitually hit the sack at the same time every night, even on weekends. Maintaining a regular sleeping schedule not only helps you sleep better, but also makes it easier for you to wake up as well. Make sure, though, that you’re not sleeping way too early.  Sleeping at 7:00 PM may lead you to wake up in the wee hours of the morning, making it harder for you to fall back to sleep again.


5) Give your bed a check

Do you have trouble stretching on your bed? Do you have enough room to move around? Make sure that your bed isn’t too cramped, or it might be preventing you from getting enough sleeping hours.


6) Exercise regularly

Sure, we’ve heard the countless benefits of exercising. But aside form getting that bikini-ready body, exercising boosts sleep quality as well. Just makes sure that you don’t exercise minutes before bedtime—otherwise those endorphins will make you too alert.


7) Skip the after dinner caffeine and nicotine

Coffee and cigarettes make you alert. These stimulants might be good when you’re swamped with work, but they will cause problems when you’re itching to fall asleep. Their effects are known to linger for a long time, so it is advisable that you steer clear of these several hours before you hit the sack. Smoking in bed is a double no-no—remember that it's a fire hazard!


8) Don’t drink too much fluids before bedtime

Skip those irritating midnight trips to the bathroom by limiting your liquid intake at night. Nothing’s more annoying than waking up in the middle of the night for a quick bathroom trip, only to find yourself tossing and turning in the sheets several hours after.


9) Ditch the dinner buffet, but stock up on your nightly glass of milk
Indulging yourself in a dinner food-fest might not be a good idea when bedtime’s only a few minutes away. Eating a lot makes digestion a bit slower, as our stomachs need a lot more time for work. However, various foods can actually help us sleep easier.  Tofu, dairy, and turkey can help boost sleep, as these contain an amino acid called tryptophan, which produces serotonin. Serotonin helps calm our nerves and makes sleeping easier.


10) Set your alarm to a reasonable time

Instead of setting your alarm clock to go off at a too-early hour only to find yourself hitting the snooze button repeatedly, set it to the time when you actually want (or need) to wake up. Getting short bursts of extended sleep is less healthy than getting uninterrupted sleep since this allows for more REM sleep, which is deeper, or so this study tells us.

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